Many times when you recently cut your hair off, you don't feel very confident wearing it out because it is new to you (if you are not accustomed to wearing your hair very short) and you don't know how other people will react to it! I encourage you to face your fears! This is the only way that you are going to feel more comfortable with your new cut!
Do it in spite of your fears! Put down that wig that you wear planning to wear and walk out with confidence, with your head up!
Even if you don't feel confident do "as if" you were. Practice being confident. Practice confident body language. The more you confront that fear the less it will have a grip on you! Face the negative comments (They will become less powerful overtime) Face the positive feedback, for those of you who have a hard time accepting compliments! Confidence is not only about the way that you act, it is also about the way that you think! You NEED to know why you big chopped, you need to be convinced and be SURE that you made the right choice in order to exude that confidence! You need to choose to be confident! It is a choice.
It is not easy but If Confidence is really what you want! This is the price that you have to pay! It will definitely be worth it!
One thing that really helped me, was to prepare myself for the positive and negative comments. I would stand in front of my bathroom mirror and speak to myself! Give the reasons why i went natural over and over. Thought about how i can respond to negative comments ( Nobody likes to get catch off guard and not know what to say)!
Newly Naturals stand up for your choice! You chose to cut your hair for a reason and you need to know why! Because people will ask you that!
Assume what you did and don't make people feel like you are in doubt because a lot will take advantage of you uncertainty and lack of confidence to make you feel bad about your decisions!
Whatever your hair texture may be ROCK IT and LEARN how to style it, LEARN to ACCEPT it! (it can be a process)
Positive affirmations for you:
" This is the hair that God has given me and i will rock it with confidence because this is exactly what God wanted me to have, he formed me with love in my mother's womb, and this is exactly how he wanted me to look"
" Everyday i am more and more confident about my hair!"
" I am committed to finding hairstyles that i love for my natural hair"